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Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. (Ephesians 5:25-27 ESV)

I barely heard any good things about this movie but as soon as I started watching it, I was hooked and into it, and, shockingly, I thought this was a very intriguing movie. Michael Cera starts off playing his typical role – the passive lonely twenty something male with no direction in life who just wants a girlfriend. I honestly have not seen any of his movies apart from Arrested Development because either the movies are too raunchy or I detest his character too much from the previews alone. He doesn’t start off any better here but it gets better.

Rated R Disguised as PG-13

I usually try to keep morality judgments to a minimum when giving my thoughts on a movie – we get too easily derailed on the moralism and miss the worldview we’re inundating ourselves with – but I need to get this out of the way for Scott Pilgrim. Watching this movie, I was surprised that it was a PG-13. It felt like a R-rated movie. The language could still get a bit harsh and crude, and I was pretty repulsed by Kieran Culkin’s homosexual character, Wallace. I kept asking what is the point? Maybe it was a key piece from the comic that doesn’t translate. Don’t mistake this for too much bias – the gay sexual overtones in every scene with Wallace were much much stronger than any heterosexual innuendo were (which repulse me as well). I wonder if any homosexual friends of mine might actually be offended themselves at his highlighted promiscuity. The relationships highlighted in Scott and Ramona’s lives were mainly immature and not primarily sexual. There’s one less clothed scene that doesn’t go anywhere (easily fast-forwarded through). Scott cracks about “1st and 2nd base” and making out but Wallace has to go over the top for some reason I don’t understand. This didn’t ruin the film for me, but it might for you.

The Premise and Style

I loved the simplicity of the plot: guy (Scott) likes girl (Ramona) and then has to fight her 7 ex-boyfriends in order to “date her.” Director Edgar Wright takes a well-played phenomenon and goes all the way with it in non animated video game style. When I say video game style, I mean it – forget about reality in the fights here, we’re talking points and powers and 1-up lives. This feature of the movie might annoy you but I loved it, it made the fights hilarious and less serious nor focused on mere physical strength.

The Fight for Her Heart

What I liked about the fights was that it was not so much about the matchup but about who he was fighting for her. There was a element of Ramona that was chained to her past and Scott defeated these evil guys is not just about dating her but freeing her and winning her heart. This isn’t about machismo (he doesn’t have any of that anyway!) as is the typical reason for these fights in movies.

The question that keeps coming up for Scott, and ultimately for Ramona is this: Is she worth fighting for? I think the character of Ramona is perfect for this film – she is sweet yet broken, and attractive yet not appearance focused. The film obviously makes her stand out but she is not some airbrushed model tossed in there to get young men to see this movie. Ramona accepts Scott for who he is but doesn’t enable his passive tendencies. She isn’t perfect – her past is real and she is still captive to it and Scott is part of her path to freedom. So then, does Scott see her as worth fighting for? Initially it’s all motivation by infatuation but it then begins to transform into a genuine love for her – he has to see all of her past and keep seeing her more and more for who she really is. Good stuff on multiple levels. It’s not just about him winning her but there is a cleansing affect – like he is washing her of her past. Multiple times though, Scott is ready to give up. Ramona even runs back to one boyfriend, showing that her enslavement is a choice as well as a prison.

Victory through Brokenness

So can Scott defeat the final ex and free her from the boyfriend to whom she actually runs and is most enslaved to? The route to victory is not paved ultimately by love or perseverance – it’s through death, and his own confession of sin to the girls he himself has hurt. He also has to earn the “power of self-respect” to defeat the bad guy which is our cultural way of saying that you need something outside of the relationship. Anytime you see “self-respect” in a movie, just recognize it as an indicator that we all know we need a higher love otherwise the relationship becomes too much of an idol. Self-respect is overrated; we need Jesus – He demonstrates our worth and is our rock. The point is that she can’t be his only thing worth living for and once that changes, he can then finish the job and free her.

Seriously, 1,000 Words on Scott Pilgrim?

There is definitely some depth to this film! I am still surprised and I want to see it again. I have one final thought. There is a point in the film when Scott seems to forget what he is fighting for, who he has won. He’s won a big victory and then he forgets all about Ramona, practically letting her walk away until it hits him. I think this is what can happen when you get married. Dating and being engaged and the anticipation is enthralling. It’s a lot of fun. Pursuing your girlfriend or fiancé is easy. But it’s very easy to forget who you’re pursuing when you get married. How often do I take for granted what an amazing wife I have? I can act like the fight is over when it’s only just beginning. I can drift into habitual apathy instead of reveling in the gift she is to me, my best friend and one of the greatest things ever to happen to me. I don’t ever want to forget that. Men, don’t forget your Ramona either but you keep fighting for her. You know your wife is worth it.

Scott Pilgrim vs. the World was a mind-blowing, fun, surprising film with hints of the Gospel and what a marriage takes. Heed my warnings above and you might want to give it a shot. 

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